Of Nostalgia and Peppermint Tea

After taking in a breath of peppermint tea, I suddenly got all nostalgic. You see, the last time I had had peppermint tea was around the time I was going out with one of my exes. Ironically, Lacuna Coil were playing on iTunes at the same time, which only helped to enhance this effect.
I was struck with a kind of longing. I starting thinking abut why I broke up with her. Sure, she was a drug fiend, but she never tried to push any on me. Sure, she had done LSD, and E, but she never touched heroin. Eventually I reached a conclusion, she made me feel good. I liked how she made me feel when I was around. She loved me, as I had loved her. I forgot about the fact that in her drunken moments she pretty much consistently insulted me. It didn't matter. I needed that feeling back. The one of mutual need and longing.

Then it hit me. She's not the only one who could make me feel like that. She was a truly remarkable girl, I'll admit. One of my top relationships, definitely. But it's not like she's the only girl who can make me feel as she did.

It's a trap I think a lot of people fall into. We experience something we like, and we think that the source of this is the one one. Consequently, if an ex were to meet up with you again, and possibly hint at getting back together, it could be hard to turn them down. We hide from the painful memories or logical reasons why we shouldn't do it.

I personally make it a rule never to re-date someone, as I feel that if you do so, then there will always be that aire of hostility or distrust, and also, you already know them. My view is that when starting a relationship with someone, it is a chance to learn more about that person. Over time, your roots will intertwine, and consequently, after the initial period of euphoric love, depending on how intertwined your roots are, you'll have to decide whether or not the relationship is going anywhere. If you already know the person then the roots have already grown, and there is little chance of 're-entwinement'.

Back to the point, if this or something similar happens to you, if you must consider it, think over it very carefully. Break through the barriers protecting yourself from before, and decide whether you can let it go.

Don't misunderstand me. I'm not warding against getting together with exes as such. That's just a personal view of mine. I know that some can make it work. I'm just asking you to seriously think about what a relationship with this person has to offer, rather than jumping into something potentially damaging.

At the end of the day, everything is a gamble.

Late'

[Ozzy will now go back to enjoying his peppermint tea]

"Embrace me, take me in your arms. Take me in your care, and don't you dare let go."